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Breaking the Mold: Redefining Healthy Relationships

by Despina Mitchell, M.S., LMFT

In a world where societal norms dictate what a healthy relationship should look like—financial stability, health, love, friendship, thriving careers and successful co-parenting—it’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that these elements alone equate to fulfillment. But what happens when, despite having all these aspects in place, we still feel a sense of emptiness or lack of connection with our partner?

It's time to challenge the conventional narrative. A relationship can check all the boxes and still leave us craving something deeper. Acknowledging this isn’t a sign of failure; it’s an essential step toward growth and understanding.

Recognizing our desires for more—be it emotional intimacy, adventure, or shared goals—doesn’t diminish the love we have for our partner or the life we've built together. Communication is key. It’s crucial to create a safe space where both partners can express their feelings without fear of judgment. Sharing struggles, desires, and aspirations is not only healthy but necessary for a thriving partnership. It allows us to explore the complexities of our relationship, fostering deeper connections and understanding.

Let’s embrace the idea that wanting more is valid. It’s a reflection of our evolving selves and our needs. By recognizing that fulfillment can be multifaceted, we can work together with our partners to redefine what a healthy relationship looks like for us—one that honors our individual journeys while nurturing the bond we share. In breaking away from societal expectations, we open the door to authentic conversations and deeper connections. Let’s not shy away from exploring what truly fulfills us, together.